[CHAPTER 2]
Here's another way to gauge how your
relationship lifestyle is working. Answer the following questions
about the chemistry that exists or not between you and your partner.
Don't be afraid to tell yourself the truth. As superficial as some
of these items may sound, these issues can have a powerful influence on
your relationship as a whole.
| 1. | I am no longer physically attracted to my partner. |
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| 2. | My partner makes me feel sexy. |
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| 3. | My partner and I no longer kiss and caress. |
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| 4. | Sex with my partner is energetic and satisfying. |
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| 5. | My partner and I no longer flirt with each other. |
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| 6. | My partner and I would rather be together alone than with other people. |
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| 7. | I no longer look my partner in the eye when we are alone together. |
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| 8. | If we do not have sex every few days, I really begin to miss it. |
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| 9. | At various times I resent my partner. |
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| 10. | I love to give my partner physical pleasure. |
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Any odd-numbered item to which you answered "True" or even-numbered item to which you answered "False" scores against your relationship. If your score is higher than three, you obviously have problems with the intimate/sexual aspect of your relationship. Note the items that scored against your relationship so as to use them as objectives in later planning.