THE RELATIONSHIP BEHAVIOR PROFILE:
YOUR PARTNER

[CHAPTER 2]

Here are ten questions that will help organize and guide your thinking about why you feel the way you do about your partner. If some of your answers are the same to each question, that's okay. Use your journal, if you wish, to help you better understand your feelings.

• List five instances of your partner's loving behavior toward you during the last month.

• List five instances of unloving or hateful things your spouse has done to you during the last month.

• List and describe your partner's five best qualities.

• List and describe your partner's five worst qualities.

• List five things which you have asked or scolded or nagged your partner to correct or improve, but which your partner ha snot corrected or improved.

• List five things that made you fall in love with your partner.

• List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner.

• Describe your partner's sexual relationship with you, paying particular attention to your partner's:
• Pattern of initiation
• Frequency
• Quality
• Problems

• Describe your partner's tendency or lack thereof to focus on you, paying particular attention to:
• Desire for being physically close
• Desire to talk with you one-on-one
• Desire to spend time alone with
• Desire to protect you or comfort you during times of need
• Desire to please you

• Do you look forward to seeing your partner at the end of a day? If not, write in your journal the reasons why. Be as specific as possible. If your partner complains about the way the house looks, rite it down. If it's a look on your partner's face, write that down. If it's because you feel you have to invent conversation to make things pleasant between the two of you, write that down too.